Today is Robert’s birthday. He turned 19 today. As I contemplate his age, I realize that my youngest son is a young man! Even, more significant in many ways, he is mobile and is gaining more independence each day. He got his driver's license this morning and is now out driving on his own...behind the wheel without another licensed driver for the first time!
This is a milestone and a reason for celebration.
For years now, Robert has been responsible for maintaining our yard. He has been mowing the lawn, trimming the shrubs, power edging, spreading the mulch and planting new trees and shrubs. He has helped our neighbors with power washing and deck staining, spring and fall cleanup projects and snow removal. With his new mobility, he can now easily perform these services outside of our neighborhood and share his love of nature with those in Northern VA.
To see "Robert's yard" the fruits of his labor, and his latest venture and dream, visit Believe in a Ray of Hope website.
This milestone also brings to mind other celebrations and memories of years gone by. Flashing back, I recall, when I first learned that Robert would be joining our family. It was a sunny July 4th. The year was 1995, and yet I remember the details like it happened yesterday. To learn how this miracle unfolded, contact me and I will send you the full story.
In September 1995, Sandra and Robert joined our family and the picture above was taken in the early months. We enrolled Sandra in kindergarten and while we used our limited Latvian vocabulary, Sandra quickly picked up English and became a translator for Robert. Meanwhile, Robert quickly picked up a household broom, adopted it as his favorite toy, and has been sweeping up ever since!
Greg quickly bonded with them and they were seen as three peas in a pod. Our family, friends, and neighbors joined us in celebration. Everyone around us embraced Sandra and Robert and showered them with gifts. Within weeks of their arrival, their closets and drawers were bulging with clothes and toys.
Now, 15 years later, much has transpired. Greg has moved out, is happily managing the kitchen of an organic restaurant, has become a great cook, and is engaged to Christy. They share an old farmhouse, have planted a garden, love their Great Dane, Peyton, and plan to marry next year and begin their own business in the spring.
Sandra is in her second year of college. While attending classes full time, she is working part time, earning money, shopping, and paying off a portion of her college expenses. She is loved by the children in the neighborhood and their parents who see her as a warm loving spirit. She is highly sought after as a baby sitter and is determined to become an elementary school teacher.
Looking backwards, I realize that our lives have been tremendously enriched by their presence and through adoption. We have experienced great joy, success, pain, and frustration and we have weathered life as a family. I was naive and made many mistakes in the last 23 years as a parent, yet, I would not change my life in any way today.
Experience has been a great teacher. I have learned that transitions are seldom easy but when we can face our challenges with those we love and admire, we often find greater meaning in our lives.
While Sandra and Robert both still share the front doorway, I realize that time is marching forward and they too will be looking to venture beyond our doorsteps. Soon they will be marching out with high hopes and dreams for themselves, following in their older brother’s footsteps.
I continue to believe that our dreams and hopes will propel us to new heights and both Robert and Sandra seem to have caught the beat! What do you think?
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Ministry offers respite for special "MAMAs"

The church is in Georgia and yet its message beckons to me like a lighthouse! It is not next door. In fact, it is several states away, yet the light it sheds is bright and provides a beacon of hope for SPECIAL MAMAs EVERYWHERE!
As I reflect on my day and the conversations I have had, I am reminded that "Parenting a teen with special needs is not a sprint, it is a marathon." The road is long and we get so tired. As special Mamas, we need a break, we need a place to breathe, we need time to reflect. Yet, where can we turn? Is there a place nearby that provides a place to rest and lay down our weary souls?
Read more about the special ministry in Georgia and let me know if you know of a similar place? If there is not a place nearby, please read through the questions and begin to ponder!
Ministry offers respite for special needs families
What can we do to ensure that parents and caregivers have a place to let go, to breathe and to reflect?
Where can a parent safely place their children while they take a moment to relax, refresh and reenergize?
What can we do to create an atmosphere of inclusion and acceptance for both the parent and the s child/teen with unique challenges?
What can we do to ensure that time away from the family is enjoyable for the child/teen with special needs?
How can we make this unique child/teen feel appreciated?
How can we help this Mama to continue to put one foot in front of the other in search of a brighter tomorrow for herself and her child?
Remember, you are never alone. Someone feels like you. Let's find her and begin to breathe easily.
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